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Am I being too pushy?

Mon, 10/12/2009 - 14:31 — Anonymous

I have been talking to a guy on POF for a little over a month now. We have great conversations and have a lot in common. Last weekend he asked me for my number and asked me to go out on a date this past Friday. He never called me and then said he was sick the day we were suppose to have our date. I asked him why he hadn't called and he said he was a little shy and this whole online dating thing was new to him. I told him that I felt like he was giving me mixed signals and that was the whole point of POF.....to go out on date and get to know people. I also told him that I didn't want to be strung along either. What is the "proper" time frame for going out on a date after talking on the computer? Am I being too pushy?

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Mon, 10/12/2009 - 14:41 — Anonymous

A-Womans-Best-Friend

No, not after a month, most men will want to go out for a date after a few days to a week of chating, he was either painfully shy, using fake pictures and never want to meet in person or dating other girls he rather go out with and just comfirmed the date with someone else on the date you were suppost to go out

Mon, 10/12/2009 - 14:31 — Anonymous

IgorFrankensteen

You probably are for HIM, assuming he's telling the truth about being shy.

Of course, he might just be terrified he'll meet you and be disappointed (as you might be with him), and that it will be a very uncomfortable situation. That's part of the gamble here, just as you are gambling that he will perk up and actually ,meet you, now that you've thrown the gauntlet down.

As for your other question, there's no 'time frame.' EVERYTHING is up to the participants in this interaction.

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